Kingdom Dating Solutions

Question: When you are spiritually dating is there anything that you should be doing along with that. I have been reading your book and I have been putting your advice into action. I would say there have been changes within myself but I don't want to become discouraged because I do not see anything happening in the natural. How do I not become discouraged?

Hello, that is good that you are seeing changes in yourself, remember that God always starts with us first. And as far as your soul mate manifesting, remember that all things takes time and the bible says that "through faith and patience they inherited the promises." You keep doing what you're doing and don't stop nor give up, most give up right at the time of blessing. The bible says you will reap if you faint not. Most people faint therefore they don't reap.

Question: Why do the younger Single Sister of today,for example,ages 20-40 seem to think that when they're in dating or in a relationship, they must have sex to secure the relationship. When you try to explain God's way,they don,t get it. 

Hello, many singles in that age group feel like they have to give of themselves in order to secure a relationship, but what they don't realize is that once a man has gotten your most prized possession in dating then the desire to commit is farthest from their mind. And once they begin having sex then they have to keep it going and that produces soul ties that makes it hard very hard to break. They think that they have to give of themselves to secure it not realizing that the man that God has for them will prefer doing it God's way first and foremost. Something is lost once sex enters the picture.

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Question: If I'm interested in a man, is it too forward to ask him to dinner?

Hello, if you want to go the old fashion way that is fine but the next time he says he is going to get a bite to eat-that's your que to say--"Well I would like to get a bite to eat also, let's go together" (or something of the sort). One thing you may find out about having to take the lead with a man is that if he can't take the lead in a small things such as asking out to dinner he may not be able to take the lead in bigger things. You may end up taking the lead in many things and you will soon get tired of that. A man should take the lead because he is the head.

Question: What is your take on pre-martial counseling? Is it necessary? If so, with whom?

Hello, pre-marital counseling is vital. And it should be done by your Pastor or his Pastor or both. If a man/woman don't want at least to go for pre-marital counseling beware because something is not right. They should be happy to get counseling from the Pastor because remember the bible says, "They watch for your souls." So God has given them the oversight over you so it should be a pleasure to get it. My wife and I went to two different ministries when we were dating and we went to get pre-marital counseling from both Pastors. It was our pleasure to go and at least see what they thought.